Many of us live on autopilot. We exist on a daily basis, programmed as an automatic, and never take into account the choices at our disposal. We walk the same familiar and worn-out path for so long that we assume that this is the essence of life. We accept it involuntarily and we do not believe it can be better or different. We may be so entrenched in our old habits that we don't even realize that we are not living, but only surviving.
When you think about it, many of us have spent most of our lives working based on a set of false beliefs. These beliefs can make us feel that we are somehow inadequate. We learn to say and do things to keep the peace and make others happy. But who is working to make us happy? That task, my friends, is ours and ours alone. Researchers suggest that our ability to be in tune with ourselves and with others is linked to our happiness.
When we are in tune with ourselves, our inner world corresponds to our outer world. We are our true selves. To be our authentic self is to reconnect with who we are. It is about being faithful to ourselves. It is about aligning our thoughts (inner world), words, and actions (outer world). It's about honoring our feelings and having the necessary confidence to express them. It's about getting to the bottom of things and leaving aside the false beliefs that no longer serve us.
People who are controlled by their programmed negative false beliefs often want to please others rather than themselves. They also have difficulty being authentic. It can be frightening to do or say things that go against the norm, what has been experienced, and what is true. Our ability to be authentic is often tested in our relationships, rejecting our own desires, and making room for what we think others want. We fear the consequences of our words and actions. "What happens if I say no?
By being authentic, we can love and accept ourselves, do what makes us happy, and follow our passions, no matter whom we may disappoint. It can make us vulnerable, but at the same time, it allows us to create authentic and intimate relationships full of unconditional love.
How does it feel to love each other? It is about treating each other with kindness, care, and compassion. It's about not judging each other harshly or punishing each other for every mistake we make. It means being warm and understanding, recognizing our deficiencies and imperfections, and responding to them with the same level of support and respect that we freely offer to others. It is about loving who we are, holding on to who we are.
Self-love forces us to act in our own interest and forces us to ask "Why not? Imagine the inner strength that develops by flexing that muscle.
Of course, we love each other when we have proper self-esteem and self-esteem. These things allow us to be whole inside and interact with the world as our true selves. There is something else that is necessary for us to love ourselves. We have to go beyond our fears. We must have the courage to feel our feelings and to honor them no matter what path they take.
We must be willing to take the risk to show our true self, with all our imperfections, failures, and uncertainties, when we are our true selves. We must accept what we are, instead of what we think we should be. We must also be willing to love ourselves enough to accept the costs and consequences that our words and actions may have on others. It may burn at this moment, but in retrospect, many come to the conclusion that this is the best and brightest thing they have ever done. Being authentic creates a foundation on which we can begin to experience joy and happiness in everything we do every day of our life.