Lack of self-respect is not a problem that only adolescents and young people face.
Many adults today - even in the golden years - do not have good self-esteem.
This is sad because low self-esteem can damage our relationship, we are constantly jealous of others and feel… very bad about ourselves.
The time has come to change that!
Good self-esteem will make you feel good.
I'm sure you know one or two people who feel comfortable in their own skin.
They don't fall apart when people unfairly criticize them. They feel comfortable saying "sorry" when they are wrong. And they are confident in their own talents. They can laugh at themselves.
The beauty of good self-esteem is what it gives us.
more success at work
we seem to be more attractive to our partners.
we do not need the approval of others.
life seems brighter and happier, and less dark.
we feel good
However, I don't think it's entirely our fault that we have low self-esteem.
This is because the way our parents raised us had a huge impact on our level of self-confidence.
Did you expect to be "perfect" when you were young?
Were you strongly criticized if you had a big dream or if you really wanted something?
Were you constantly compared to other children?
Did you "flunk" something (like losing a game, getting a D on an exam) and feel like a complete failure as a person?
The above examples show how our parents may have unconsciously damaged our self-esteem.
7 ways to restore our self-esteem.
1. Achieve More
I'm not talking about achieving something as important as receiving an award or a medal at a sporting event.
We can set small goals, pursue them, and achieve them. Once we achieve our goals, small or large, we will have a sense of respect.
Make sure the goals you set are satisfactory. Don't set goals to please another person or get praise!
Do you know what is interesting?
Bragging about some of our achievements on Facebook or Instagram can also increase our self-esteem. Don't exaggerate, or we'll be a little boring…!
2. Be Aware of Your Talents
It may seem obvious to some of us.
But people with low self-esteem either don't know this or prefer to ignore their strengths.
If you put a pen to paper and make a list of your strengths and talents, you may be surprised that your list is longer than you thought.
You can also ask someone you trust to list your strengths. This will give you the opportunity to look at your talents you didn't know!
3. Treat Yourself as a Decent Person
This is where self-service comes in.
Treat yourself with a massage, a hot bath, spread some essential oils (geranium essential oil makes you feel loved if you're in a metaphysical), play with your pet or child, keep a diary, exercise, have dinner at your favorite place… basically doing exercises that will make you feel good.
This activity, which will make you feel good, will send signals to your mind that you are a valuable person and worthy of the good things in life.
4. Pretend You Will Succeed
Is there any celebrity you admire for being so confident in your interviews?
Or someone you know personally?
We can simulate her body language. Confident people tend to shake hands firmly, make eye contact, speak clearly, and stand up. When we accept their body language, people treat us with respect, which in turn makes us feel confident.
I personally admire Queen Rania of Jordan. She gently draws the line when she meets people in public places, keeping a smile and a very polite body language, even when unknown women rush to embrace her at events.
Jennifer Lopez is another celebrity who has become a master in the art of relationships. She can answer embarrassing interview questions with jokes, laughs at herself, and effortlessly portrays herself as humble and accessible. It is an acute ability.
5. Speaking and Spending Time with People of High Self-Esteem
I like spending time with positive people.
They help me to reformulate my problems as something that disappears.
People with high self-esteem make us feel loaded and charged after spending time with them.
They are willing to admit any mistakes or "failures" they may have made, and always support us when we make our own mistakes.
In short, they accept you for what you are, for your shortcomings, and for everything else.
They value these people very much.
6. Be Kind to Yourself
I like the quote I found recently: "You can't make a mistake in life because there is nothing better than making a mistake.
Everyone makes mistakes. Successful people make even more mistakes than ordinary people.
When we "fail" in one area, we need to focus on developing our strategies.
7. The Domestication of Internal Criticism
We all have internal critics. These little shameful things will have a negative impact on our abilities.
I think he was just being polite. Or maybe he was in a good mood. I'm sure my work wasn't that good".
I'm proud to have outdone myself".
I heard about a successful businessman who has an unorthodox approach. He visualizes his inner criticism as an iguana (of everything!). He said that all these "iguanas" live in our heads.
When negative self-expression begins in his mind, he perceives it as a talking "iguana" (again).
It's a creative way to separate our self-destructive discourse from ourselves.
Remember that changes in habits or mentality take time.
We will not become confident superstars soon after applying the 7 tips described above. If we have had low self-esteem for years, we cannot become confident overnight.